Humour and parenting: Secret weapon

A recent study published in PLOS ONE has attempted to answer the age-old question: "Does humour have a role in parenting?" ... it seems the answer is "yes, but..."

Most respondents reckon, humour can be an effective parenting tool, with more potential benefits than harm. Many even expressed interest in a course on how to use humour in parenting. *ahem. empathy and timing are key...I wonder where one can learn more about that 🤔 

However, before we all rush off to enrol in stand-up comedy classes, we must consider a few limitations of this study. The sample size was relatively small (312 respondents) and predominantly male (63.6%) and white (76.6%). One might suggest that the researchers were studying the "dad joke" phenomenon rather than humour in parenting as a whole.

Moreover, the study relies heavily on self-reporting and retrospective assessments. Memory can be a fickle friend, especially when it comes to childhood experiences. It's possible that those who had positive relationships with their parents are more likely to remember the funny times fondly(yes even dad jokes) creating a bit of a chicken-and-egg scenario.

How can we use this information in our parenting? A few humble suggestions for y'all to think about:

1. Embrace laughter: have a go incorporating more light-hearted moments into your daily interactions with your children. 

2. Be mindful of your audience! What's crack-up to you might be confusing or even upsetting to a child. Tailor your humour to their age and understanding. Please don't fart in your kids face or down trow them in front of your mates. i.e Ensure your humour isn't at the expense of your child.

3. Use humour as a tool, not a crutch: While laughter can diffuse tension, it shouldn't be used to avoid addressing important issues or emotions. (*)

4. Lead by example: Show your children that it's okay to laugh at yourself and try to find joy in everyday situations. 

Here's a Mental Model for Potential Conflicts you could try.

When faced with a potential conflict, parents can use the "LAUGH" model:

L - Listen: Take a moment to understand the situation fully.

A - Assess: Determine if humour is appropriate in this context.

U - Understand: Consider your child's perspective and emotional state.

G - Generate: Come up with a light-hearted comment or action if suitable.

H - Harmonise: Use the humorous moment to create connection, not division.

Parenting isn't always a laugh riot I'm sure you know but a well-timed chuckle can smooth over some of life's bumps and even strengthen connections. But don't expect your kids to appreciate your puns until they're at least 30!

https://journals.plos.org/plosone/article?id=10.1371/journal.pone.0306311