The Blog for Parenting Anxious Kids

Anxiety in children is more common than many of us realise.

According to the CDC, about 9.4% of children aged 3-17 years have been diagnosed with anxiety. That's roughly 5.8 million children in the U.S. alone. Comorbidity: About 37.9% of children with anxiety also have behaviour problems, and 32.3% also have depression

If you're a parent, these numbers might feel overwhelming, but understanding and managing your child's anxiety can make a significant difference.

Here are the steps to one systematic approach that I've 'designed':

ENTER the HEATMAP

Step 1: Track Anxiety Episodes

The first step in managing anxiety is to track it. Creating a log to record anxiety episodes can help you identify patterns and triggers. Here's what to include in your log:

- Date and Time: When did the episode occur?

- Location: Where was your child?

- Who was present: Who else was there?

- Situation/Context: What was happening?

- Intensity: Rate the episode (mild, moderate, severe).

As promised; here are the questions from EP106 of the Parenting with Huddle Wisdom Podcast

1. Questions to Explore the Origins of Anxiety:
a. "When did you first notice feeling worried or anxious?"
b. "Can you remember a time when you didn't feel anxious? What was different then?"
c. "Has anything changed recently in your life that might be making you feel more worried?"

2. Questions to Understand Physical Sensations:
a. "When you feel anxious, what does it feel like in your body?"
b. "Where in your body do you feel the anxiety the most?"
c. "If your anxiety had a color or shape, what would it look like?"

3. Questions to Identify Triggers:
a. "What kinds of situations make you feel the most anxious?"
b. "Is there a particular time of day when you tend to feel more anxious?"
c. "Do you notice any thoughts that pop into your head when you start feeling anxious?"

4. Questions to Explore Coping Mechanisms:
a. "What helps you feel better when you're feeling anxious?"
b. "Is there som...

Did you know that anxiety among children has nearly doubled in recent years? According to a meta-analysis, 20.5% of youth worldwide now struggle with anxiety symptoms. That’s 1 in 5 kids! Today, I want to share some practical strategies to help your child understand and articulate their feelings of anxiety, especially if they are hard to engage.

Let’s start with a real-life example. Recently, I took a risk with a 15-year-old gamer who played video games for about 7 hours a day and only spent 2 hours on school work. Instead of confronting him about his school work, I asked, “Why aren’t you playing more video games?” I know, I know how that sounds, but bear with me. This unexpected question disarmed him and opened the door for a more meaningful conversation. Why I did this, I find hard to explain. I took a risk. I don’t recommend that unless you are able to connect with someone and empathise (Will Graham style)

- learn more here (www.huddlewisdom.com/founda...

A recent study published in PLOS ONE has attempted to answer the age-old question: "Does humour have a role in parenting?" ... it seems the answer is "yes, but..."

Most respondents reckon, humour can be an effective parenting tool, with more potential benefits than harm. Many even expressed interest in a course on how to use humour in parenting. *ahem. empathy and timing are key...I wonder where one can learn more about that 🤔 

However, before we all rush off to enrol in stand-up comedy classes, we must consider a few limitations of this study. The sample size was relatively small (312 respondents) and predominantly male (63.6%) and white (76.6%). One might suggest that the researchers were studying the "dad joke" phenomenon rather than humour in parenting as a whole.

Moreover, the study relies heavily on self-reporting and retrospective assessments. Memory can be a fickle friend, especially when it comes to childhood experiences. It's possible that those who had positive r...

Today, after dropping off my children at school, I found myself reflecting on an incident. A young girl had fallen and grazed her knee. As she cried, seemingly more from embarrassment than pain, an adult comforted her, praising her bravery and encouraging her to continue. While the adult’s intentions were undoubtedly good, I pondered how the approach could have been slightly different.

 I firmly believe that as adults, our role is to prepare children for life’s journey, not to smooth their path. This concept is beautifully articulated in Greg Lukianoff and Jonathan Haidt’s book ‘The Coddling of the American Mind’. However, it’s essential to recognise that everyone experiences pain. It’s not about dwelling in discomfort or letting it hinder us, but rather acknowledging our children’s feelings when they’re hurt, then offering reassurance and guidance for what lies ahead.

This brings me to the topic I wish to discuss today: decision-making in the...